Sadness

[IvanXLIV]

(01-09-2016, 01:45 PM)Thekink Wrote:

(01-09-2016, 09:07 AM)Vrook Wrote: Well Kink, I feel pretty well what you're going through. Even though I haven't lost anyone, I just feel that some of the bonds I created with some people I didn't know, haven't met and/or probably won't met them are stronger than any bonds with real life friends. And for this reason, despite the fact that I try to remain pretty distant from the game, I began to care for some of these people, and for that, losing them makes me feeling pretty sad.

Its a funny thing, perhaps the fact that its purely about how much you enjoy the persons company on here instead of other factors makes it more relevant. But Yes I think its difficult to remain detached sometimes!!

Kink, Vrook, I can relate to your experiences on so many levels...

I've been playing this game for about half a month now, logging just about every night. As a newcomer, I was initially more interested in exploring the "Fuck" aspect of the game (sorry)... and made all the related mistakes and fauxpas, learning to walk and chew gum at the same time... the hard way. As time went by, my play style evolved toward the "Meet" aspect instead.

I do not pick a partner at random these days... Sure, at first, having "blind dates" was exciting, but I discovered I'm just not comfortable with complete strangers anymore. I need to know a little about my prospective partner, discover what she likes, etc. The sex might be casual, but the relationship must be "real" and commited (and by that I DON'T mean exclusive). I like to revisit these new friends (with benefits) whenever I can, to deepen our affinities and explore new ways to please each other. Usually, I'm intrigued by (and will approach) a lady with a name and/or concept that stands above the crowd, so to speak.

The downside of this approach is... you do become emotionally vulnerable. All too often, I spend three to four hour concentrating on a single new encounter, with no guarantee that it will blossom in a beautiful and intense relationship. Sometimes these encounters leave me cruelly disappointed - you build a witty dialogue, ramp up the banter, achieve an apparent complicity and mutual attraction (at least it appears that way)... and then you get the hotel room's door slammed in your face. Your painstagingly-constructed house of cards is torn down at the very moment you're about to put the last piece in place.

I have fully accepted these consequences, as hurtful as they are. It is emotionally draining, but the potential gains - bonds of friendship often stronger than those made in real life, as Vrook put it - is worth the risk, IMHO. This being said, one has to maintain a certain level of detachment; the club is NO substitute for reality - it IS "just a game", as many have wisely reminded us elsewere in this thread.

Still... There are two or three vanished ladies out there whom I'd  dearly like to meet again... and, given the chance, properly entertain this time around.   You know who you are.

Ivan