05-31-2016, 09:40 PM
(05-31-2016, 11:41 AM)IanParis Wrote:I'm very familiar with the Myers Briggs personality types. I myself usually test out to be an INFP...I will rarely get an INFJ. I think it depends on how stressed I feel.(05-16-2016, 05:57 PM)Cuylie Wrote: At the risk of drawing the ire of the Cactus God (I keep a little one on my desk at work, so maybe my care of that particular idol will spare me his prickly wrath).I think there is no "best" way.
How do people find the best way to start an RP session? I have approached some people, but it feels like they want to set-up a writing assignment with me. And, well, I'm an English Teacher and that sorta feels like work. Do people just kind of improvise into it, or do people find setting up those parameters are really important? (I could understand in the sense of some of the sexual boundaries....)
It's a matter of who you are and who your partner is (like sex, dance, discussion, theatre, ...)
For instance, if we use the Myers Briggs types of personalities (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-perso...ersion.htm), a "E" (extraversion) guy will like to improvise while a "I" (Introversion) guy will need to lay things out first.
I know I'm a "E" and I don't like the assignment thing. RPing "on the fly" with another "E" will be great most of the time. But my best experience was with a "I" I friended a long time ago, who caught me by surprise while knowing I would jump in the story she had prepared.
My advice, for what it's worth, would be: know yourself, learn to know the people you want to play with, and then go for RP at the right time (which can start as soon as you meet the people if it fits). This means some active listening and asking in the beginning, but it's well worth it in my book.
I agree with the broad strokes of what you are saying, but I think I want to refine it. Being an Introvert, I read a wonderful book called "Quiet" regarding our qualities. There is sometimes confusion between Introversion and social anxiety. If you picture the extraversion and introversion axis, it is also intersected by the "anxiety" and "calmness" axis. I'm what is called a "Calm Introvert," being around others isn't anxiety inducing, but it does slowly drain my energy. Anxious people, in relations to this axis and not in general, tend to find that human interaction as, well, anxiety inducing; it causes a nervous reaction. It is the people who rate highly on this anxiety scale that we might call "shy"
What does this mean? Well, I noted in your description that it feels more of a war between the calmness and anxiety factors. I test pretty strongly introverted, it surprises people sometimes, but it is because I don't get much anxiety from social interactions. I don't need define social guidelines in the slightest, but someone with greater anxiety would.
I think, I really feel bad for the "shy" extravert (Many people think of them as an introvert, but they are, infact not), who needs to connect with others but feels extreme anxiety around it. I don't know, I found the introduction to that axis inclusion to be eye opening and I encourage all introverts to check out that book, it was pretty interesting.