05-09-2016, 10:41 AM
(05-07-2016, 07:26 PM)JCF Wrote: Yesterday, I was talking to someone I've come to consider a mentor about exploring kinks. He told me that it all comes down to setting aside your own desires and giving what your partner wants, and that depending on the partner, there isn't much difference in the end between a caress of someone's hair and smashing their face into a tile wall. Some would take offense to the latter, while others the former, and still others might be in the mood for the former one minute and the latter the next. What matters most is that you respect and care about your partner to give them what they want and be receptive to their needs. Because if you do, and you've done the necessary communication to fully understand those needs, then it's not a problem no matter what they ask for.
There are some people who might find this an odd statement coming from me, but I don't think I fully assimilated the lesson he was teaching me, especially yesterday. I realized that as giving of myself as I am, there are a number of hang-ups that hold me back.
Now I wonder what my hang-ups cost me yesterday, and the days and nights before. What solace I find is in the fact that those hang-ups don't necessarily need to cost me anything tomorrow.
Been there, moved passed, and its an amazing ride
Not only towards other peoples desires, but also into yourself by reflection.
Welcome to the fold then
Every word a world