Meet 'n' .... love ?!?

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(04-27-2016, 10:41 AM)Fenix-TS Wrote:

(04-26-2016, 09:03 PM)IvanXLIV Wrote: Hence my clarification on page 2 of this thread, Fenix. Did you read it?

But you do point out an interesting "problem"... it is true that those engaged in an exclusive relationship within the game have much less time to spare for their online friends. I stand guilty as charged.

Ivan

Yes Ivan, I read it, and yes, I think this thread was a very good idea, and yes, I think that people should do whatever they want, and HELL yes, I hope they have fun and be happy while doing it.

My sentence is from someone that stands in the other margin of this "big sea" with "a lot of fish", and standing there, I watch and with my empiric mind I analyse, and my conclusion is too damn obvious, IT WONT WORK!

Let me explain why, first is very obvious, only a very small percentage of long distance relationships work, because as we all know love is a very beautiful feeling, but we are animals, rational (some of us aren't, but that's another story), but still animals, and being that, we need much more than love to keep a relationship working.

Second, and that is "for here" only, a large, very large percentage of the "love relationship" here is based strictly in words (some evolve to phone conversations, skipe, and very, very rarely go outside, to the real world) and to be based only in that is so "easy", why is that?, because people cheat, and don't get moralist or prude about that, is on our dna, people cheat, now, the problem is, only a few of us (human kind) can look into someone eyes and lye, many try and fail, miserable, oh they cheat alright, only they cant lye, as for those who can (luckily a few percentage of world population) look into your eyes, and without blinking convince you of his/her innocence and good will, even when all your senses said otherwise, are so good that many of them could be professional scammers; and that's the thing, without the problem of looking into someone eyes, if you have the intelligence to understand what your "love" partner want and need, and if you have the ability to write correctly with the right choice of words, you can easily, be one of them.

Third, if the real world is easy to get tempted to cheat, in here, oh! in here we have temptations in every corner, and even if you talked and you agreed in an "open" relationship, the chances that you find someone better, more thrilling, more challenging are so big, that is almost impossible for you to ignore them...and believe me, you won't, and after a while that perfect "love" fade away, the other feel it, the trust issues overlap, and...here come the discussions, the sorrow, the pain...

So, if you want to keep a love relationship, here's my advise, don't talk to no one, log on only when the other log on as well, and try to choose someone from your time zone, if things are working fine, make the next move...and then the other, don't skip stages, go slowly, enjoy every single moment together, and be honest, make believe that when you talk to him/her you are looking into his eyes, and...maybe, maybe (still a big maybe) you can take that outside (as from there, sorry to say, different rules, RL rules my friends, or you have it, or you don't, words aren't enough anymore).

Sorry for the big post, but when I start to analyse from a sociological point of view, I lose track of time and dispersed me a bit.

i like how you divided this....the first part show the base line...the second part points at the problem...third part explains why the problem happens..and last part, a solution on how to avoid such a problem...this is just beyond respect....i wanted to up vote it but i think i reached a limit for today....if there was a "feature" option...then this comment would be it.