Bonding...over porn...

[Bor]

Well, on a serious note, i made some really close friends ( 2 .-. haha) with who im friend beside the game, but except those 2 it felt like, after disappearing for a month or so, everyone i knew disappeared as well. so even tho i believe its possible to get some serious friends, gotta admit that most of 'serious' 'ships' arent as serious as some may think ;b just my 2 cents.

[Sasso]

I'm actually really happy the positive feedback that this thread is receiving. I think after posting it I worried it might be a bit much for what is after all, the forums for a porn game, but I'm glad everybody's had such positive experiences with this game

I'm going to spend a couple minutes replying to some of the comments here. They defenitley deserve it.

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(03-08-2016, 09:56 AM)Sharp Wrote: I do get a little angry when people say the friendships made in here are not transferable to real life. Somebody I met in the game is now somebody I consider my closest friend. I've met people who have helped me through exceptionally dark periods, and I have grown close enough to some people to truly call them family.

I know that to some, MnF Club is just another sex game; somewhere to waste a couple of hours, get themselves (and maybe others) off, and leave. For me though, it really is a community, filled with an incredible range of characters and personalities. The reason I come back everyday is to hang out with friends, engage in conversation, be part of this awesome community. The sex side of things, it's nice to indulge, but to me is secondary.

Online relationships with people I think defenitley count for alot in real life, even if you can't physically meet them. One of my flatmates I live with now I actually met on Runescape, and now she lives with me here with her boyfriend. Granted it's quite a different way to meet than on here, but it shows that online relationships are just as valid.

My level still only 1 or 2 after months of playing. The sex is not that important to me here, although I do enjoy roleplaying from time to time.

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(03-08-2016, 02:33 PM)MeganRain Wrote: I completely agree with Sharpey almost word for word. Even now when I'm at work, I'm checking out the forums to see what is going on. In my opinion, if this were just a porn game, people would not keep coming back. Like you said Sasso, once people have tossed their rocks, they're typically done with porn for a while. The truth is that this game is as much a social MMO as it is a porn game. That aspect, and not the porn itself, will keep retaining the old users.

I would check the forums during the day if I could, but I'm a university student and too many people would be looking over my shoulder in a lecture for me to risk it 0.0

Really dedicated communities for anything come out of seemingly nowhere, and it's actually really sweet. I'm glad this site has such a positive one.

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(03-09-2016, 01:10 AM)IvanXLIV Wrote: Unlike some of you, I cannot check the forum from my workplace, and by the time the day is done I can't wait to get home and check on the community, see what I might have missed...

I had to go away on a trip from february 26th to march 4th, and I was irrationally afraid that it would all vanish (or change beyond recognition) in my absence. Thankfully, it did not.

And it still pains me greatly when I check my friend's list and discover someone has deleted his/her avatar. It almost feels like a loved one has died. 

I'm usually checking the forums in my evening (it's 10pm here now), but I live in New Zealand and my peak times aren't usually active for many other people. I usually post something and get no replies until I wake up in the morning.

I've taken a few unintentional breaks of about a week or two, and while the game itself isn't actually any different, too many friends are gone. There are always a few that hit especially hard to see their avatar deleted...

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(03-09-2016, 03:03 AM)Bansai Wrote: Well, what can I say? Every word and phrases of how I felt and experienced in this game had already been fore mentioned by you guys. The thing that keeps me hook up to this game is definitely all of the above.

But what I want to add is that another thing that keeps me hooked to this game ever before is the "Who am I going to meet today when I log on" feeling, there's a whole bunch of people out there like some of you in this forum that I haven't meet in game that are fun to hang out with, and that excitement to meet new people is what really hooks me up to this game ever more

There are alot of gems to be found online (and I mean that in more than one way. I could meet a new friend, or I could meet someone perfect to put on "Handling Unwanted Invites", and I'm excited for either).

Side note: I'm sooo sorry I had to log off as soon as you logged on Bansai! Catch up soon!

[Sasso]

(03-09-2016, 01:38 AM)823 Wrote: Before I share my experience, I would like to preface this with a little conversation that I enjoyed with IvanXLIV when he wrote "A Night at the Vodka." 

I had been guessing the names of the various MnF Club members who made cameos in his story, and many of these people still keep the forums alive. (Read the story and guess for yourself, if you haven't yet!) There was one person in particular, however, whose identity I couldn't place – frustratingly so, since I could recognize nearly everyone else. "But you seem to be good friends with her!" he exclaimed. That person is no other than our honorary Messi of rejections.

Sasso, you and I have never met in game, and we've never really had a conversation together. I hope we can change that soon! After all, it's thanks to you and the "Handling Unwanted Invites" thread that helped me have fun with even the less enjoyable aspects of the game, like cold invites, lazy sexting, and the occasional horny aggression. It was free of drama and harassment, without any desire to slander or judge people personally. I thought it was an ingenious and good-humored way to let someone know when I'm not in the mood for a conversation with them, let alone roleplay.

Many people come here with certain expectations of a sex MMO. Not many of us, myself included, expected anything more than being able to get off with someone. New players often wander around, thinking virtual sex and small talk are the only things this game offers – and that was how I played the game my first week or so when I joined in January. My reason for joining the community is rather unique, and I might save this story for another day when the time feels right... 

So, there I was, engaging in the usual dirty talk with my cute, yet busty, avatar... then, I discovered the forums. That was a turning point that expanded my time here in a lot of good ways. I found rich personalities, a lot of creativity and humor, and many, many bright minds. I learned that sex can be all kinds of communication, and sex can mean all kinds of intimacy and release to different people. I've made surprisingly deep connections: sexual, emotional, mental. And, soon, I became a friend to many wonderful people here. Like Sasso, I believe that what elevates the game beyond just virtual sex are the people who make it worth staying for. This place offers so much more than what you take at face-value. We share music and video games. Laughter. Imaginations. Hell, let's throw in some philosophy, literature, and politics while we're at it. We build castles out of sand.

There's a strange duality going on here. This is only a fraction of who I am IRL, and this place doesn't define my life. But the friendships I've made are very strong, and very dear, and something that can grow outside of the game. Fenix once told me how, regardless of age, nationality, race, occupation, gender, sexual orientation – "we are in the same boat, we all have something that pushes us here."

So, with affection and gratitude, I thank everyone who's made this a fun journey that's far exceeded what I could anticipate from the outset.

,
Soju

(Saved this one for last because it's very special  )

I just read A Night at the Vodka just now. I haven't looked through the other sections of the forum much but I really should when I have time. I cant quite place many of the names (Including myself yet 0.0), but I'll be rereading it and re-reading it for days just to figure it out.

It's actually sad that we haven't talked in game before.I'm so happy Handling Unwanted Invites had such a good effect on you!  Alot of regulars on the forums I think of as friends, but I haven't talked to many of them myself directly (To take an example I never met MsTan in game, even thou she was a major contributor to the "Handling Unwanted Invites" thread, which I am super grateful for). We'll have to meet up in the game so we can add each other (I'm usually at the beach because it's my favourite place to hear from new people). Anyone else from the forums can take this as an invite to find me in game, and I promise I'll add you can we can have a chat

The forums changed the game majorly for me as well. without it there wouldn't be a way for the community to really be able to meet and talk as a group. I think there were some other websites that had threads dedicated to this but that is more of a sub community in their website instead of one of our own (ULMF comes to mind. I sometimes check there but I'm not active on their forums). It's kind of weird to think of a time before the forums existed, and it was just a bunch of people running around in game.

Who I am online and who I am in game I don't think are exactly the same person. I usually try to act like myself online but I feel like Sasso  is a distinct person herself (I'm a theatre student and this is just making me think of Stanislavsky's theory of method acting, which actually is actually a whole different conversation in itself). People do act subtly different depending who they're with (stuff like why you'll swear in front of some friends and not others), and that applies online.

That said, what I said in my reply to Sharp is what I should say here. The relationships are real and even when we move on they will always count for alot.

[Bansai]

(03-09-2016, 08:41 AM)Sasso Wrote: There are alot of gems to be found online (and I mean that in more than one way. I could meet a new friend, or I could meet someone perfect to put on "Handling Unwanted Invites", and I'm excited for either).

Side note: I'm sooo sorry I had to log off as soon as you logged on Bansai! Catch up soon!

No worries, never let your time spend in the community to affect your studies, or irl stuffs in general. Looking forward to catch up to you too

[Vally]

Back in my day when all was in Beta and people that joined the game were coming mostly for the animations, it was all fun and games but even then small communities formed. I guess mostly due to lack of content or just because of the human nature.. hoping that not all behind the keyboards and screen are dogs and cats.

Those were great times, there was only one server at first and everyone was coming into the alley just to chat.. about everything you can imagine, sex being something at the bottom of the list of topics. Those were the times when I was part of the community, actively talking and participating in most of the activities that took place, I could say I was a different person back then. Chatting, partying, joking, laughing and making friends each easily.

Ohh how times have changed, now I am more of a silent observer, I only answer the questions that are addressed to me and that is pretty much it regarding the game for me. On the other hand I appreciate and congratulate all of you that filled this forum, with stories, poetry, music and designs, pouring a piece of yourselfs into this wonderful extension of what the a community should be about.

Bottom line for me is that even though most of those that I used to know during the Beta and the first few months after the reopening of the doors of this Club, are not in the game anymore. I am very happy for those that have joined the game and the forum, using them both in a way that was not thought of in the beginning, creating bonds and friendships, connections and content for the delight of all.

[Vally]

How nice of me... I seemed to have killed a thread 

[Vrook]

*looking left and right, for other people* Let's revive this thread!!

I am Vrook! I was born in the M'n'F Alley during a warm day of October!

Ok, now on a serious note, I have already spent around 4-5 months in this world. Because after spending my time here, it turned out that this game is much more than that. As perhaps most of us, I started my adventures here, running left and right, discovering the game world. After that, I started to throw some cold invites here and there, or sending the famous PM : "Hey! Wanna have some fun?"

Some of this PM's were succesfull, some ended up with either no response or an ignore. But through this cold invites, or "plain, boring" PM's, I met some really nice people, with some of them really forming a strong friendship.

And as in every friendship, it hurt me a little seeing that one of the first lady I met in this game, and which showed me the ways, removed me from friends list. I know, some of you would say that "It's just a game" or "Ha, fool, go get a life", but let me disagree. I saw friendships breaking up, months relationships ending on a sad note, people leaving the game, all of this having a smaller or bigger impact on myself.

As a shy person, I tend to get really emotional involved to everything I do. So this game made me see myself and the others in an another light, may it be bad or good.

And also, I wish to thank you all amazing people playing this game, whose stories are worth reading, something to learn or to be careful about in every piece of them. And also I wish to thank a certain person among all of them, a FRIEND who was near me when I was feeling down, and which I met while I was enjoying a "drink".

Thank you all, for playing this game, and also, for sharing a little piece of yourselves in here!

With all respect,

[IvanXLIV]

Vally: Come on, don't be silly - you didn't kill the thread! Your comments are always appreciated, my friend - and everyone around ere will agree with me. I miss seeing you standing stoically by the fountain, you know...

Vrook: my friend, we haven't talked together much lately... but you are still an important member of my circle of friends. I'll always see you as the personable bartender, always ready to lend a sympatheric ear to everyone who needs it.

Ivan

[Willy_for_Boobies]

Being here since December 2015, i had here a lot of fun and, naturally, sex.
Meanwhile i have some few people here who are more than only playing partners for me or
are someone who gets (and want) an short " Hi, "and "How are you ? " from me.
Some people i am interested in and caring about their life and doing and feeling
( as they let me take part of it ;-) ..and i for myself let them take part..........).
i would call myself as my good friends here ;-)

But by separating this live here most strictly from my real life (benefit of anonymity), none of these friends i knew IRL.


Perhaps sometimes a friendship here grows more and gets soo deep (always dreaming of meeting my soulmate here or IRL),
that i have the confidence to realize it in my real life too.

Thanking my friends here to "let me be me" and "taking me as i am" , being patient and polite with me
(even, when i am stumbling over my keyboard with only 2 fingers and needing more time to answer them )

I love to be here and hope of gaining more good friends and hope to develop my existing friendships furter

[Kyrios]

I was going to expand here, but that expansion I instead placed in the challenge thread as I wrote it in poem form. Some people here are truly amazing.

And for some reason I feel like expanding further and taking 823's advice and just being a gushy mess. Not only are the people I mentioned in my poem amazing, the community is really special too, in general. There are also people I didn't mention, but wanted to, I just didn't have the right words.

Finding this place has been wonderful for me. It has genuinely improved my real life, which was already pretty great. I now have contact details for a good number of people outside the game and exchange emails or skype messages. I also have the intent (and some level of planning) to meet up with 4 people (thus far) IRL. Most of them when they pass through London. One where I will be the one travelling. That is not something I expected to happen!

Even if the forum and game where to disappear tomorrow I would still have those connections.

Even if those people stopped talking to me I would still have precious memories of genuine friendship, compassion, intimacy and even love.

Through the people I have met here I have become a better person.

Thank you.