How to start a GOOD conversation?

[Emmie]

I think a good way is to check the bio of the person you wanna start a conversation with. See if there's anything there that could be a good icebreaker. That can't be copy pasted though.

[Amberlicious]

I must agree with that Emmie. To me, the most annoying thing is to be approached by someone who asks something that I already have in my bio. It shows they don't really care and are shooting in all directions hoping someone would bite the hook. If they don't show any effort on approach, what hope do we have they will be fun?

[LilCaylee]

(03-20-2018, 02:06 PM)Overfiend,  I actually came here to start a thread about what men do wrong/right in MnFland... and possibly another to advise the Ladies in how to avoid these things and help Men find what WE want. However, I am not allowed to start a new thread, I guess, as there is no "New Thread Button" for me. A problem that I see when approached by low level men (as well as some higher ones), in game, is that many seem to forget that there is another person on the other end of the conversation. That person has fantasies and desires, much as do you. My persona, in game, is one that speaks to my "Pretty Woman Fantasy". The Hooker with a heart of gold... If you approach me saying, "Hey, Bebe. Nice tits, Can I fuck you?", you are not feeding MY fantasy, a bit. I am not interested, at that point. Some are, I\m not. Grabbing, smacking my butt, and the dreaded "URL to your dickpic", are NOT ways to interest most of us. This might prove interesting, should you spend the time to discover my wants, before tossing those in my face. I help lower levels, as much as I can. I have played a few years, now, and have worked my way to being an Executive in an Escort Agency, and love it. I approach my characterization as if I were truly HER! I am a naturally outgoing woman, and I draw from my "in real life" (irl) characteristics...I am much like Julia Roberts' character in that movie, I mentioned, tho I could never become a real life prostitute. If you state, in your 2nd or 3rd pm message that you "don't EVER "PAY" for it... you have denied me, MY fantasy, and I have just lost interest in you. When I say "bye", leave me alone, right?  On the other hand, should you simply think, "I do n't have the game cash to afford her.", there are thngs that you can do...such as, simply making a reasonable offer that you CAN afford, or attempting (thru RP) to interest me. Many Men simply don't try any of that...and I usaually make a mental note to avoid their Avi's. If I am able to start a thread, in the future, I intend to start one concerning these issues in our little world of MnFland... I look at what I do as providing a real life service to members who "purchase dates" with me, in game. I attempt to ensure that we both (or the 3 of us) find a relaxing time together, that makes our days in the real world, a little less stressful, or at least all ows a break form that reality...Maybe I am applying too much Psychology to a simple game, but, I feel that these "encounters" have the ability to relieve stress and anxiety...it works for me...  See you, out there in MnFland..I'll be the "Hooker with a Heart of Gold! Wrote: I have wondered the very same thing.  You are not alone.  Though i think rejection is a natural part of the process of finding a match.  Also keep in mind that there are some real-life males with female avatars so that could add to the number of rejections.  Hence why i have suggested the implementation of an MNF Match Maker tool to help us narrow down our search.  Nevertheless, I am eager to hear from the real ladies of MNF about what piques their interest.

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(07-18-2018, 02:06 PM)Emmie Also, I love your banana eating cat. It looks exactly like my little Kitty Ket. He is siting on my chair at my shoulders, right now. Wrote: I think a good way is to check the bio of the person you wanna start a conversation with. See if there's anything there that could be a good icebreaker. That can't be copy pasted though.

[Starseeker]

I hate all the "hi, how are you?" approachment, cuz, ok, i know it's harmless but if you receive the same message about 10-20 times every single day it gets really annoying, and sometimes the guy clearly doesnt give half fuck about how you are, he just want a chance to fuck the shit out of your avatar, that's why i dont even bother answering hahaha. Anyway i know that it's kinda hard for the boys to start a conv due to all that fake "lesbians" out there (if you know what i mean). I've even tried starting a new conversation with a male avatar with people who doesnt know it is mine. They treat me completely diferent just because it's a male avatar. It's feels kinda discriminatory, but there is nothing i can do about except not talking with them anymore.

[Sixxxy]

(08-10-2018, 10:24 PM)Starseeker Wrote: I  hate all the "hi, how are you?" approachment, cuz, ok, i know it's harmless but if you receive the same message about 10-20 times every single day it gets really annoying, and sometimes the guy clearly doesnt give half fuck about how you are, he just want a chance to fuck the shit out of your avatar, that's why i dont even bother answering  hahaha. Anyway i know that it's kinda hard for the boys to start a conv due to all that fake "lesbians" out there  (if you know what i mean). I've even tried starting a new conversation with a male avatar with people who doesnt know it is mine. They treat me completely diferent just because it's a male avatar. It's feels kinda discriminatory, but there is nothing i can do about except not talking with them anymore.

The thing about the "Hi, how are you?" approach is, while yes it is simple and can easily be copy pasted to every girl on the server, it's not offensive, and it's the same way I'd start a conversation irl. And I try to actually give a genuine caring thought into how their day is going, if they respond with a genuine caring response. If I say, "Hi, how are you?" and the other player replies. "Good." or even "Good, you?", it doesn't give me a lot to work with. Now, I can understand that women in this game receive far more PMs than men do, and a lot of them are simple or lack any point other than starting a conversation, like "Hi" or "Hey", but giving a real response and attempting to carry on a two way conversation can lead to meeting some very great people in game. And as you described, it's become increasingly hard as a free to play male to find people to talk to on this game, because many of them are female avatars (whether they are girls or not irl) and are either lesbians in game, or prefer women, or have "no men" or something similar in their bio, or require you to send them an in depth RP scene before talking to them. And while sometimes that's fun to do, sometimes I just want to be able to meet people who are sexual and fun, and if we click, we can go to the bedroom, and if not, then we can just continue talking about whatever interests that we might share.

I still feel that there needs to be significant changes to the actual social part of this game before a lot of this gets better (such as UI updates, like the friend and room invites appearing either on the side of the game, or somewhere out of the way, rather than taking your entire screen from you.) But hopefully soon this becomes easier, because I don't feel like getting on nearly as often if I know that I need to put a solid hour or two into just finding someone to reply to my messages.

[Thrower]

80% of the girls in the game wants your money, so everytime you even to talk to them about anything they ask for money. You can't convince anyone that you're just there to talk because there is so many offensive guys that write "Hi bb i want you to suck my pp" bla bla bla. Which i think is a problem in general. Because sometimes i meet cool people, but when trying to have a conversation with them they reject you because they just think you want to fuck and leave..