male characters have it hard

[Nikolai]

(12-26-2015, 01:45 AM)Thekink Wrote:

(12-26-2015, 01:14 AM)Nikolai Wrote: Just send as many hi's or cold requests as you need to until you get a reply, this is an online sex game so your only being rude if you send repeat requests or messages intended to insult. You can complain about that if you want but as long as there isn't some sort of not looking option or character memo it's pointless to complain about these requests rolling a female toon when dudes aree just playing the game, why waste time and effort in a well written message when most will be ignored.

Hello Nikolai, As a member of MNF club since it finished beta, ive seen alot of posts with regards to cold calling and wish to share my view, I realise that us guys want to get our rocks off, but cold calling doesnt work unless its a lady who wants to see the positions, ie, brand new level 1's. As a (long term) in as far as that equates) male member of the club, ive had my fair share of cold calls and at first its complimentary, then a bit tedious, then you just get annoyed with it! Especially when you have created a friendsip with someone and are trying to talk with them "around" all the invites and friend requests. I dislike it, so the ladies must be really frustrated! ive known some REALLY nice ladies quit the game because they are unable to talk to their friends due to the number if invites and requests. Ive only seen a portion of what they get and i cant talk sometimes. (so the initial statement) just send as many hi's or cold requests as you need, seems to be actually frustrating the real women away from the game and all you will have left are guys playing alts. perhaps some Rp'ing as though you REALLY wanted her, as opposed to spamming her to the point where its pointless her logging on!!!

The kink

I know it can be annoying but like I said there is no alternative, it's just something we need to deal with until they add a not looking function and you'll only really get bothered when you first show up so it's not even that bad. 

As I said before a real waste of time is rp'ing and then being ignored so your last bit of advice isn't helpful, best way is to just keep asking, after there interested you can RP. 

As it stands the system isn't that good so blame that, not the people who just work with what they have.

[Tao]

Well... What The Kink is talking about IS an alternative.
If you're ignored when you tried to RP then work your introducing. There is two ways, the respectfull one wich just is "ask before" and the rude one with cold invits. It's just a question of education, it's not that the game don't offer the tools we need, it's just that some people are too lazy to be polite...

[V3ol]

You'll get what you ask: rude question, rude answer, sometimes.
So, in the end, there's nothing to complain about

[LucasKyo]

What i will talk, i think everbody here should know: Try be fun/nice with a girl in first sight, the 'laid' you will get it with time and when she will be nice with you. Girls/Feminine Avatars in this game are constantly bombarded with PM's and cold invites (i have an feminine avatar and i know what they saying before).

You know, make a first sight even in real are a good start from everything, in this game will not be diferent

I hope make somebody clear in what i speak now

See ya o/

[Thekink]

(12-26-2015, 03:48 PM)MisterSmiles Wrote: I think you're just approaching this the wrong way. Males have it hard..yeah okay in the sense that we can't as easily garner superficial attention in an online setting especially. But I suggest you look at it as a privilege instead of a hardship. Know what you want, find it and make it your own. You will fail along the way, but it will matter very little in the long run, every victory makes up for any amount of fails, and you'll get quite the high out of it. That's the privilege part.

With that in mind I think the best thing you can do is just ask yourself, every time you find yourself online, what is it I want right now? Is it some specific roleplay scenario? A simple chat? A lady I can seduce? A kinky firecracker? Once you figured that out then act on it. Want a lady, then treat her like a lady. Want roleplay then ask about it. You just want to fuck and talk dirty? Well that's the easiest isn't it, just drop your standards in the next glass.  Just keep your objective in mind, stick to your guns and you will find everything that you want. And most of all accept that you won't win every battle, and you're not required to either.

But all in all the only real advice or "formula" is to accept and acknowledge that you are interacting with another human being. They might be right for you or they might not. The only way to find out is to treat them as you would have them treat you. I know that looking around the place sometimes you could easily think that the default behavior is bitchy and bratty.. it really is not. Don't fall into that trap and add to that kind of behavior. If it gets you down then just take a breath, log out, do something else, come back later or another day with a positive attitude. 

Anyway, cheers and Merry Christmas!

Well said sir, probably the best advice ive seen on this thread so far!!!

[Bor]

Males have it hard that's true.. but on the other side of the coin females have it hard as well. ;p

At the end of they day, everyone here "wans sum fuk" but its not only about what we want, it's about how we get it. proper example would be, people going to restaurant. everyone going there wants to eat, but imagine if waitress would throw your food on floor, telling you to eat like that.. ofc you wouldnt want that. same goes here haha.

My advice would be, act in game the same way you'd act IRL. ask yourself, what makes you different from others and I guess everything will work.I've done "wan sum fuk" thing IRL, It was.. not sure if I translate it correctly, party dedicated to finishing the first year of the university, I went to a girl (I knew her a bit) and whispered her I was too lazy to flirt and if she'd love to have sex. she told me i was gross, but she was smiling, so I told her that at least I was honest bit her ear a bit, grabbed her hand and we went to toilet.. truth is, If I'd do that with 99% of girls, it wouldnt work, but another truth is everything can work if you'll do it in a certain way with certain people.

and My second advice would be, Learn how to get rejected. we've all been there, no we dont like it, but not getting sadkittens.jpg and learning to keep it cool is necceasary. I've been rejected while I was acting all like a gentlemen and I've got "lucky" while doing the most retarded thing one can imagine xd. that's just how it works, some things will work others wont, just learn how to jump from that ;p

and last one (even tho people who should consider this wont read it most likely). If you want fast click and no communication, try other MNF products, they're more fun for you and the second part haha.

[Shey]

After reading this thread it seems like almost every girl has different opinions, pet peeves and preferences in some way or another. I am the same in that sense. One day I may accept and enjoy one thing and the next day I might despise it. It just depends on my mood I guess.

I used to accept almost every cold invite because I wanted to get xp really quickly (it was more important in the Beta).
Now that I'm 5 I have very little reason to party in the bedroom and I find myself accepting fewer invites in general. Mainly just focusing on the "Meet" aspect of "Meet n Fuck."

But you never know, tomorrow is a new day and if your not a total dick in the chat or you manage to make me laugh, you have a much better chance of getting in my pants

[MDMA]

(12-26-2015, 01:14 AM)Nikolai Wrote: Just send as many hi's or cold requests as you need to until you get a reply, this is an online sex game so your only being rude if you send repeat requests or messages intended to insult. You can complain about that if you want but as long as there isn't some sort of not looking option or character memo it's pointless to complain about these requests rolling a female toon when dudes are just playing the game, why waste time and effort in a well written message when most will be ignored.

I am really looking forward to you trying this on me. I'll save up a special bottle of napalm, just for you.

[Ashley-]

I don't think someone said it in the thread, but I noticed (as far as I play and according to other girls) that if a girl come with a ''Hey baby'', she will have more chance to get an answer than a guy... So basically, girls don't like guys that treat them like an object, but it's okay if it's a girl...

Pretty weird...

[Eriond75]

Ashley- : of course, a lot of those girls responding well arent girls, too, so there's that, too :-)

Everyone responds better to women in social situations. I think that's natural, or maybe a social construct but is so ingrained that it's impossible to separate from 'natural'.