(03-31-2016, 02:59 PM)Oh_my Wrote: Hello everyone  

I've been on this game since the Beta of it (even though I joined the forums very late ) and I would like to express my opinion on a matter that's been bothering me for a while... It wasn't that much of a thing but I feel like lately, it's been.

As some of you may know, I'm generally hanging out on the smaller servers because I feel it's better to have some "niches" to talk with friends and have fun   And until now it was pretty nice~ The people there were nice and everything was cool. Sadly, when it comes to having "personal" moments with someone, it can get quite awful. Let me explain  

More than once, and since I'm quite shy overall, I stayed with people I liked and generally stood with them in smaller servers. However, nowadays, people feel the urge of breaking into our privacy and are generally rude saying that we should get a room or even worse, just leaving the game and never come back (A prime example is the poledancing and the "private" shows). I do understand that and I do know that we could just buy a room for that. However, when no one has money and when everything goes well, we are in a right to think that we can have "private" shows. But this applies to all kind of private moments.

I do understand the idea behind the "get a room" constant remark. However, it is a MMO and a social game and people can enjoy some private time sometimes. That's why I think that when someone comes to us when we do something like that and say that he has the right to do so... I agree. To an extent being when it's bothering us. We aren't on the smaller servers for no reason after all and we're not being rude by just saying "Please leave it's a private show" to someone.  So please, if someone is telling you that you bother them, please accept it and move on, because it is a social game before everything else and people can be embarassed or can actually feel bad by you arguing with them and it could lead to stupid provocations. There's no need to get mad and alert the whole MnF planet Just move on and let them be. They are in the wrong by doing it outside but you are in the wrong for invading their privacy and bothering them after they told you so.  They are human after all.

If you managed to read until here, well congratz  And thank you for reading, feel free to share your opinion on this as I feel this is quite a matter on this game. I hope I offended no one and broke no rules or anything.  Bye 

(03-31-2016, 03:14 PM)Oh_my Wrote: That's what I'm saying, both people are in the wrong. I never said I was in the right either :p The reason of my post was basically someone trying hard to get us out of the game or shaming us (Basically talking about that in a bad way with saying names in a very crowded place like Beaver) just because it got to him. That shouldn't be a thing since we are both wrong on that. And the fact he keeps on going is what makes it really bothering. ^^

In short, public shaming for a soft PDA is a bit of an overkill to me

(03-31-2016, 03:17 PM)LoliGal Wrote:

(03-31-2016, 03:14 PM)Oh_my Wrote: That's what I'm saying, both people are in the wrong. I never said I was in the right either :p The reason of my post was basically someone trying hard to get us out of the game or shaming us (Basically talking about that in a bad way with saying names in a very crowded place like Beaver) just because it got to him. That shouldn't be a thing since we are both wrong on that. And the fact he keeps on going is what makes it really bothering. ^^

In short, public shaming for a soft PDA is a bit of an overkill to me

Yeah it is just a game PDA. A porn game in fact...so PDA is just a word too weak to me XD
Also yeah its a bit overkill for something that small.

(03-31-2016, 03:20 PM)Oh_my Wrote:

(03-31-2016, 03:17 PM)LoliGal Wrote:

(03-31-2016, 03:14 PM)Oh_my Wrote: That's what I'm saying, both people are in the wrong. I never said I was in the right either :p The reason of my post was basically someone trying hard to get us out of the game or shaming us (Basically talking about that in a bad way with saying names in a very crowded place like Beaver) just because it got to him. That shouldn't be a thing since we are both wrong on that. And the fact he keeps on going is what makes it really bothering. ^^

In short, public shaming for a soft PDA is a bit of an overkill to me

Yeah it is just a game PDA. A porn game in fact...so PDA is just a word too weak to me XD
Also yeah its a bit overkill for something that small.

Glad we agree on that   Of course I can understand that it would gross out people in public, which is why I really stay soft and since I'm quite shy, aside from hugs or kisses there's nothing ^^ But yeah, going all the way to the poles, he wasn't grossed out at all x)

(03-31-2016, 03:38 PM)Emmie Wrote: I obviously don't know how you approach it when telling people to leave. But I hope you ask in the politest way you can think of. Cause you have no right to demand it, and you clearly know it, I don't see a problem if you politely ask people to leave, and if they decline, accept that they are well within their rights. Now, you can't blame lack of cash, cause that's not anyone else's problem but your own. So either you get a room for the privacy, or you accept that some might watch.

Now, I think it also depends a lot. If people are there before you get there, and they complain about your roleplay, you are in the wrong. If you are there first doing rp and they come to complain, they are in the wrong. If you're there doing your thing and they come, they should either leave or let you do your thing. Cause you did get there first. I still don't believe that first comers can tell people to leave, but I also don't think newcomers should bitch about the contents of the chat.

If I come to an area and I don't like what's going on, I move on to another place. But if someone told me to leave, I would probably talk back. A public area is public, and I wouldn't let some stranger tell me where I can or can't be. ^_^

Also, not taking sides, just saying how I view it. Not judging anyone.

(03-31-2016, 04:36 PM)misslanni Wrote: A private VIP room costs what? 1800 cash for 3 hours? I see no reason why those involved in the group can't come up with that amount in a few minutes of glory hole (or using two alt accounts) other than you're being lazy and don't really care whether or not you run into issues.  When you really want to avoid all possible modes of confrontation, you do it. Otherwise, you don't really care. 

If you want to clench your fists and still get to do all those things in public, then there's no "privacy" to be talked about...a public setting has no privacy. This doesn't go to say that it's ok for these people to intrude on conversations or ignore the obvious "closed group of people interacting" scene and barge themselves into your conversation but if it happens there's not much you can do about it except for the obvious drama and arguing.

The first time I saw a stripper on the pole I checked it out, and I was promptly told to leave because that was a private show. It was fishy to me but, I'm not a fan of arguing with people so I just left. There's no right or wrong way to act in this situation because, there's ways to avoid it and if you don't avoid it, then you're simply seeking out that complicated scenario of "get out" "no, you get out" 

Personally, I'm not into seeing people RPing sex in public (soft PDAS and maybe even a little foreplay, sure! but full on sex? pass) mainly because everyone's style is different and they don't all evoke the same image. While I enjoy giving a blow job on RP I don't necessarily like reading about a girl spitting on the guy's cock so it slides down her throat easier.(I saw that happen at the Waterfall once and promptly poofed my pixels away from the zone.)

When public sex is already underway or starts and I'm there, I just move on to another area but this is when I wish ignoring people could be something done without the other party finding out. This way, if I don't want to see their interaction but stay in the area, I can just click ignore and they can go on with their RP and I can go on with whatever I'm doing. 

However, I've seen people try this in public only to see them crash and burn and I have a friend that's told me about the sticky situations she's been into for doing it. So really, there's no way to win in public. Whether you're breaking someone's privacy or trying to ignore their actions, people will still get pissy fits.